Communicating Confidently presented May 2nd
Guest Speaker: MK Moscardelli
Our ice-breaker question was “Is there a person
or situation most intimidating to you that may interfere with your
communication?”
Some around the room responses were: My Mother (got some hahas) / My performance at my job now that I have
been promoted/ Speaking in front of office coworkers at meetings / Presentations
in front of a crowd / Fear of jumbling my words
Why is it that suddenly one cannot express
themselves in certain situations, regardless of the fact they may be very
intelligent?
The answer is ‘Self Doubt’.
“What do I have to say that they don’t already
know?”
“What do I have to say of value?”
These negative thoughts are self-defeating. Why do we often think for other
people? We think about what they
are thinking of us for them.
We should realize this:
“No one is any better than me” “No one is any less than me”
These people in the crowd – they are just people
like me. People with lives that have similar experiences, thoughts and feelings
as myself. They are not perfect,
no one is perfect.
Instead of seeing your audience as a sea of
criticism, know that your audience wants you to do well. Connect with your audience.
Some even say that a little anxiety is good and
that it keeps them on their toes.
Visualize how you want your performance to
go. Practice, prepare, tell a
story and connect with everyone in the room. Believe in yourself if you want everyone else to believe in
you. Elevate yourself to the same
level as everyone else. You can
even think about a favorite celebrity or public speaker that you admire and
study them. Become them for the
moment and command the room!
Public speaking, Interviews, Jobs, Relationships
– these all can be a source of anxiety whereby you miss out on opportunities of
truly communicating because you weren’t being your authentic self. Don’t let negative self-talk get in the
way.
You’ll captivate your audience with your smile
that holds your secret positive thoughts such as “I am smart, I am strong, I am
charismatic…I am dynamic!!’
Seminar Summary by Shari LaRosa
Presentation by:
MK
Moscardelli
Owner
of New Role Life Coach professional coaching practice based out of Fair Haven,
NJ.
Instructor
at The Academy of Music and Drama for music, voice, drama and public speaking.
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